Housekeeping, Hotels and a Wise Bishop...

Mom and I on our weekend away...

I've been traveling! I ran away from home with my mother for the weekend. O'my goodness it was the best! We drove a couple hours north up the coast to see

a friend's winery

and just enjoy some mother-daughter time. It was a lovely weekend filled with shopping, laughter, sight seeing and just delighting in each other's company.

I loved drinking in every moment of time with her. We met some extraordinary new people and enjoyed visiting with some old ones too.

I can't remember ever staying in a hotel with my mom as an adult. While we were together, I shared my favorite little story about hotel maids. As I told her the story, I began to tear up, recalling a humble and kind man who shared his truth with me many years ago.

The memory came flooding back when we checked into the little hotel off of California route 1. I was waiting in the car as my mom checked us into the extremely clean and simple hotel. As I waited in the car, I watched a women in the housekeeping department walk across the parking lot with her roughly 11 year old daughter. It was a tender moment where clearly the daughter had walked from home to see her mom. The mother had her arm around her daughter, their heads together clearly sharing a story and then she did what we all do; she brushed some brown hair off her Beautie's forehead and kissed her daughter. My window was partially open and I could hear them giggling in Spanish. It was a tender moment. This woman loved her daughter with a fierceness that resonated in my core. We were the same.

But, I digress...

When Jeff and I lived in Seattle early in our marriage, we worshiped at the Cathedral of St. James. Cathedrals are considered the home church for bishops.  For instance, Pope Francis has a few tittles, one includes Bishop of Rome. While we were living in Seattle in the mid to late nineties, the bishop was a kind gentleman named Archbishop Thomas Murphy. Still in his heart, a simple Irish guy from Chicago. Sadly for all of us, he died in 1997 of complications from leukemia.

Jeff and I had a number of fantastic encounters with him. I adored each and every one.  It always amazes me when a super successful person, is still at their core who they were as a kid. A true Irishman in his heart, a gentle soul, a storyteller...

I can't recall where we were when he shared this story, I think it was in a talk for our small prayer group.  He told the story of how he grew up without privledge in Chicago. His mother was a hotel maid. Whenever a guest left her a tip in the hotel room, she would use part of the tip to buy him a piece of candy.

It was a tiny thing really, but it could make his day. This special treat that he received, due to the kindness of a total stranger.  The tip idea stayed with him.

No matter where in the world he slept; he left a tip in his hotel room for housekeeping staff. Fancy hotel or plain little Inn, every housekeeping staff got a tip. I also think he left a note, but I can't really recall, it doesn't matter. You get the idea. As he shared the story, as only a good Irish storyteller can, it resonated with both Jeff and myself. The rich don't clean your room in hotels, it's the working poor, trying to make it in our world. With families, working so hard to give their Beauties a leg up, just like Archbishop Murphy's mother did.

He told the story with such softness, love and amazement. I can imagine his sweet round Irish face, those chubbly little boy fingers, reaching into mom's pocket hoping to find a treat. We are no matter our age sometimes just little people in larger bodies.

His story also reminded me never to leave a hotel a mess. I collect all the trash in one place, towels too. I just want the housekeeping staff (almost always women) not to have to work too hard to make the room for the next guest.

One story, one lesson, one man taught me about the working poor and how little acts can have ripple affects that you can't imagine.

We overlook so many in our world just by being busy...

But, they are all our sisters. Each and every one.

Consider leaving a little note and tip on your next over night stay... You never know when your tip just may buy candy, a treat or touch someone's soul.

xo

Kathyrn

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Does The Sun Ask Itself...

Does the sun ask itself…

So my guilty pleasure, nothing to do with my faith, but the marketing merchandising part of

myself… The materialistic part of myself, the part that loves stuff…. Yep that girl, high heel ponytail girl! LOVES, like crazy loves TKW (That’s Ted Kennedy Watson). He owns three shops in Seattle.

First and foremost we share a love for the same champagne, Ted writes a fantastic blog, scored a great book deal to which I can’t wait to  pay full price to delight in all things Watson Kennedy, and he gets write-ups in House Beautiful and Elle Décor. He loves Ina and knows her, really like they talk and what not. (Ina is the Barefoot Contessa  to those of you not on a first name basis with her). I love Ina and Jeff loves her too, but he is also a fan of Giada

Listen, can I digress for a second..., I love Giada, but Jeff L.O.V.E.S her, and that’s why I'm such a fan of Ina, she eats, drinks and doesn’t do as much for Jeff… we have tons of Ina’s cookbooks and Jeff regularly makes something delish from them, but Giada, see where this is going…can we talk about Giada’s breasts for a second, I mean good lord they are beautiful… I will never, not in this life or the next have her body, she was on the Today show with Martha on Thanksgiving morning… she looked like an angel next to Martha…. And she was so smart the way she deferred to the Marthaness of it all. Anywho, back to TKW…

So, Jeff occasionally needs to travel to Seattle and I always beg Jeff to stop by one of the stores when he’s in town.  TKW is my retail nirvana. To torture me, when he is super proud of something he has bought, he has it wrapped and places it somewhere in the house and just smiles like a cheshire cat… he did that for about three days with my 10 year anniversary band. I mean really would you have done that to a materialistic pony tail girl! So right now is a sweet little box on my mantel from TKW, waiting for Christmas… Now in that box could very well be the receipt for the lovey little card he bought at the store, but no matter, I got a gift of my very own from TKW. It is the best treat ever… 

So in addition to the box on the mantel, Jeff gave me this card that he picked up too. Jeffrey the man of few words, loves the written word, so when he writes something down he means it, and when he gives me a card the words really spoke to him…

I love this card. Despite everything I have discussed, and as proud as I am of all my accomplishments, I still struggle with whether I’m good enough… 

I love the quote from Andrea Dworkin, because it reminds me that the sun is just too busy to be worried about it… it just “burns and shines” and really that’s all we need to focus on... 

Are we burning and shining for our nearest and dearest?  Are we shining the light of our faith?, our truth of who and what God made us to be?, are we loving our beloveds in the best way?, are we speaking the truth of the wrongs in our family (be that our nuclear family or that of my beloved church) sans consequences?, are we burning the truth?…

During the season of Advent we sometimes forget, that it is a season of waiting... Waiting for the birth of Christ… and while we hustle and bustle, and drink our cider and champagne, we need to remember to pause, to wait, and to burn bright and shine… 

To not be distracted or worried about the small stuff...  

We can all use a little more heat and light...

Nanmaste